Thursday, July 24, 2008

Strong Will

Right before bed.

Grace standing by an incense burner.

West Lake which is in front of our hotel.

Mosaic wall of a Kindergarten.

Things are always on William's terms with me. He flirts, I flirt back. He pulls me in and pushes me away. When I think it's okay and engage him, sometimes it's okay and sometimes it's not. I've read many books about toddler adoption and now I'm smack in the middle of it all. Bonding and attachment is a dance and I'm not the one taking the lead. There are times that I'm sad that he's attaching first to Dan but I can wait, I'm a patient person. I know from visiting his foster home and meeting his family there that he was firmly attached to at least 2 women, the first one Deena when he was a baby and the second one Sha Yu the young woman who was his primary caregiver for the last year.
Today we packed because we are leaving for Guangzhou tomorrow morning, picked up William Michael's passport and did a little shopping. Fujian province is known for it's tea. I will be very sad tomorrow leaving Fuzhou, the place where our little boy was born. We will be back someday and take both Grace and William to the cities where they were born, but I know it will be quite awhile before that happens.

7 kind words:

OH MY #6 said...

safe travel my friend. thinking of you.


The Morris Family said...

Oh Gail..."Strong Will"- love it!(and quite familiar with it)Just remember, this determination and tenacity of his are really a great will serve him well through his doctoral work at graduate school someday! :-)
I enjoyed the link to Will's foster home and the selfless couple who founded it- truly remarkable and inspiring!

redmaryjanes said...

Beautiful photos. I would imagine that it would be hard to have Will attach to Dad first. Tim and I have talked about the fact that he may be the one Sophia wants at first. I'll have to try to be patient too if that happens. Easier said than done I'm sure.

Steffie B. said...

Love and hugs to you sweet will all be okay....William will be your little man before you know it! ;)
I cried the night before we left Hunan as is the end of their story there and the beginning with you.....

Denise C said...

Thinking of you Gail...and I'll be praying especially tomorrow!!!
Precious pictures of the two little blessings!
Love you,

Gail said...

Slowly but Surely he is making his way to you.
Hang in there Mommy, you are doing great!
Enjoy the rest of your trip.
Continuing to pray for an easy transition once home.

Steffie B. said...

where are you sweet girl????
Love and hugs,

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