Thursday, March 4, 2010

grief


'If I had a single flower for every time I think about you, I could walk in my garden forever.'




~Claudia Ghandi




(Textures by my friend Colleen at Chasing Dreams Photography)


Grief is one of those things that can sneak up on you and comes and goes like waves in the ocean I think. I've tried to suppress it with household tasks, taking care of children and the day to day things we all do but it is still there. I know it's inevitable and in someways I welcome it. This week has been a difficult one for Dan and I with his mother's passing a little over a week ago. Being well familiar with the grief process from my nursing career, and my own personal losses with divorce and infertility, it's different when the loss is a parent or in my case my mother in law. I have no regrets about our relationship, just sad. Sad for
many reasons. I do get great comfort she is not in pain anymore.


I'll be back to blogging in about a week.


29 kind words:

Dita said...

I wish I could be there to give you a great big hug, Gail.
I know that sometimes grief really can sneak up on you...it can ebb and flow.

You, Dan and the children are in my thoughts......

With love and my deepest sympathies.....
Dita

Jboo said...

Oh Gail -- I am so sorry. True, grief can just sneak up on you sometimes. Take care of yourself and your sweet family. Keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers.

Janet

A little piece of 7th heaven said...

Oh Gail..I completely get your pain..it is so raw and debilitating..I lost my dad only 3 short months ago and my heart aches so much that at times I can barely breathe. I will pray for a peace for you and your loved ones.
You will be in my thoughts and prays.

RamblingMother said...

So sorry for your loss. Such a difficult time.

Kayce said...

Many hugs my friend. You are in my thoughts as is Dan.

Super Mommy said...

Hugs Gail. I am so, so sorry for your loss. Yes, losing a parent is very difficult (I lost my father 7 years ago and the sadness is still there). I too take comfort in knowing the pain is gone.

kerri said...

hugs....

Missy said...

Gail, I am so very sorry for you and Dan and your incredibly difficult loss. When I lost my dad I thought I would never get over it, and honestly, I haven't. You just take it a day at a time and spend lots of time in prayer. Hang on to the memories and feel the grief. Hold on to your loved ones and know that I am thinking of and praying for you!

Faye said...

My sympathies to you and your family.
I found your website via the Loaves and Fishes website... my son is being fostered there, his name is Paul. We're paperchasing right now to bring him home.
You children are really beautiful.

Half Gaelic, Half Garlic! said...

Gail, I am so sorry my sweet friend......

I know that you, Dan, and the family have taken this so hard....and understandably so. Grief is not easy to deal with and just when you think you are done grieving, it sneaks up on you again.

You have all been close in my thoughts and prayers this last week and will continue to be these next few weeks.

I hope that you can find some peace and comfort in knowing that at the very least she is no longer suffering here on Earth, but living a glorius afterlife in heaven.

Love You,

Lisa

Colleen said...

Gail {{{{hug}}}} I just adore you and you know that I am here for you...I am beside myself that I can't take away your pain. I know you are going through the process of grieving. Take a break....take as long as you need...you know I am here when ever you need to chat, need to vent, scream, cry etc....
I love you {{{}}}
Thank you for using my textures...these are so beautiful!!! I am always in awe of your photography you have such an incredible eye...I just love these pictures so much {{{}}}}

Wanda said...

I am so sorry for your loss. I issed your post (a few back) about her passing. What a beautiful relationship you shared. Makes it so much harder to say good-bye.

I am too familiar with grief and loss and it still sneeks up on me and reminds me I haven't done all the work I need to. I hope you do the work and that the pain eases with time - knowing you will one day be together again.

Sending you a warm hug.
Wanda

carolinagirl said...

I love that quote...I've never heard it before! I am so sorry for your family's loss.

I lost my father almost two years ago. Grief is a powerful emotion. I still grieve...and I still find it unfathomable that he is gone!

a Tonggu Momma said...

Gail, I just... I am so sorry. Sometimes it takes a long time to feel at peace again.

Felicia said...

Oh Gail...I'm so sorry for your loss and am lifting you up in prayer. Sending big (((((hugs))))

Love ya,

Felicia

Number 6 and no more counting! said...

Don't cry because it's over...
Smile because it happened.
Dr. Seuss

Lea
xo

Courtney said...

Sending lots of hugs your way. You guys will be in my prayers and you work through this. It will take time, let yourself have those moments.

Kim said...

BIG HUGS..
totally get it..
Love ya..

Steffie B. said...

Thinking of you sweet friend....and praying you pain eases with time....love you....I'll call you to catch up when I get back!
hugs,
Steffie

redmaryjanes said...

I understand and I am so sorry for your families loss.

Tanya said...

I wish you all well, Gail. These photos of these flowers are stunning, very hopeful. I am sure the grief sneaks up on you during many moments. Hang in there. Tanya

Shelly and Family said...

Oh Gail...I am truly so sorry to hear about your mother in law's passing...

Grief can strike at any time and even though you think you have it under control...a lot of times you don't ~ so please take as much time as you need...

Looking forward to your return...

Don and Lisa Osborn said...

I've been thinking about your family all week. While there really aren't any good words, I just pray that each member of your family can be who they need to be to one another during this time (and moving forward)--if that makes sense--and that everyone gets a chance to grieve in their own particular way.

Your family has many people standing in the gap with you.

Love~
Lisa

Marla said...

(I missed this post somehow)

I'm so sorry about the loss of your MIL. I pray for peace and comfort for you and Dan. Hugs.

Casey said...

I am so sorry to hear about your mother in law. Please know that I am thinking of you and your family during this difficult time. I wish you all much peace in your hearts.

jenbusymom said...

Oh Gail, my sympathies. I lost my MIL over a year ago and I know what you're going through. You are so right, grief does come and go, keeping busy is good but so is remembering. Hang in there.

Detra said...

Gail,

I'm so sorry for your family's loss. May the Lord grant you peace through this difficult time!

Detra

sanjeet said...

Take care of yourself and your sweet family. Keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers.
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Heather said...

Your truth and grace simply shine through your posts...I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. I pray His peace and comfort above all else and precious memories to light your way.

Thinking of you
Heather

 
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