A little bit of cuteness...

Giving Thanks by Dan

Thanksgiving isn't "Thankful day" but rather "give thanks day." To whom are we giving "Thanks"? God, of course. 18 years ago in this month of November I was in a near fatal car accident driving back home on a business trip through central California. I can't count the number of times that someone has asked me, "Did you pray for God to save you?" When I was trapped in the wreckage, I remember clearly asking Him to "let me get to the hospital". I knew that I would have a fighting chance if I could make it there. The other most popular question I am asked is, "Did it change you?" Of course it changed me. It made very aware that everything we have can be taken away in an instant and it made me appreciate the value of every day. I spent 4 long months in the hospital and there were some very dark days during that time. For a while the doctors didn't know how to help me, I was that sick. During my recovery, at some point I began thanking God daily for all he has given me. I try to say it every morning, sometimes in the evening and whenever I notice the beauty that surrounds us. It goes something like this:

"Thank you Lord, for this beautiful day. For my wonderful children, my wife, my home and the life you have given me. Thank you for my friends & family and all the special people that you have had touch my life. Let me walk in your shadow wherever you lead me. Guide me to be a better person tomorrow than I am today. Thank you for this day and every day and the opportunities you give me to learn and grow."

Everything in life is transient - good times, bad times, happy times and sad times. Everything comes and goes. Time passes. We are blessed with this moment. Someday our kids will get older and move away. We have a brief few years to help them learn and grow - to help them find the beauty and the joy in themselves. Life is a precious gift that comes with no guarantees other than the chance to make the most of it. Thanksgiving is every day.

First Snow

Checking out the snowy terrain.

What ARE these things on my hands?

" I yike (like) snow Mommy!"

Hey...who's following me?

Making my first snowman!

Me and my best friend...Daddy.

Today we woke up in southern Wisconsin to about 3 inches of the white, fluffy stuff on the ground. It was Will's first snow. He'd seen a little bit of it fall from the sky last week and we'd talked to him about snow...and here it was up close and in person. He loved it.

Favorite Foto Friday

We recently had professional photos taken of Gracie and William. I was a little concerned about William and how he'd do with the whole experience, but he did great! The above picture was one of our favorites though there were so many that were just amazing and it was hard to pick a favorite... there wasn't one. The photographer is a local one that we've been using for the last 3 years. She has the God given talent that truly captures a child's heart and soul. I'll be posting more of her pictures next week and in December. We have a pretty laid back weekend ahead of us, and we're going to start decorating for Christmas. Enjoy the weekend!

4 months with our happy little guy!

The month of November is National Adoption Month and today is our 4th month being a family together with William. This experience adopting William has far exceeded my expectations of what it might be...yes we had some rough times in the beginning and there have been some bumps in the road, but it's definitely headed in the right direction. It feels like he's been with us much longer. He fits our family so well. What has worked for us? Establishing a routine that Will can count on. I'm a big believer that kids thrive on routine. No I'm not so strict about it that we can't deviate from it some, but William knows we eat meals together, he naps around a certain time and goes to bed with a bedtime routine. The first month or so we basically didn't go anywhere except outside in the neighborhood to play and meet some new friends. He didn't do so well meeting new people initially so we went slow in that area. I also would verbally prepare him for a trip in the car, clothing change, bath, diaper change, etc. because at first those transitions were hard. Now they aren't at all. William was very sad/angry that first month. Dan and I always kept in mind how much he'd lost and when he was combative we'd hold him until he calmed down and never isolated him in a room. It works much better for him if we speak in a normal tone of voice. When he's naughty (and he is sometimes) he goes in 'time out' or we call it 'time in.' Again we hold him until he calms down and then talk to him about the incident briefly. We ask him to apologize if he's done something wrong and then we say, "I forgive you." I give credit to Mike and Deena Van't Hul of the Hidden Treasures Foster Home where Will lived in a little village just outside of Fuzhou, in Fujian Province because I see the qualities in William that Mike and Deena would want. They established love, trust and respect for others. We will forever thank these people for the gift of William Michael. And he is truly a gift. Adoption is a miracle, sometimes it just takes a little time for the miracle to show it self. Add to that trust, love, consistency, patience and also knowing this is a journey for us all. At bedtime now, William gives each one of us a big hug and kiss and spontaneously says, "I love you!" We waited a long time for this and it was so worth the wait. :)

What have I done?

I have seen this list several places and thought it might be fun to do to see how much I've really done in my life. Except, that this is someone else's list and not really the complete list of the things I want to do. But, oh well. It's fun! Play along and let me know by leaving a comment so I can see what you've done. I added a few comments of my own here and there...

Bold the things you’ve done and will admit to:


1. Started your own blog
2. Slept under the stars
3. Played in a band
4. Visited Hawaii
5. Watched a meteor shower( that was in Hawaii)
6. Given more than you can afford to charity
7. Been to Disneyland/world
8. Climbed a mountain (a small one)
9. Held a praying mantis
10. Sang a solo
11. Bungee jumped (not happenin' ever)
12. Visited Paris
13. Watched a lightning storm at sea
14. Taught yourself an art from scratch
15. Adopted a child
16. Had food poisoning(on the first trip to China, fortunately not on a plane)
17. Walked to the top of the Statue of Liberty
18. Grown your own vegetables
19. Seen the Mona Lisa in France
20. Slept on an overnight train
21. Had a pillow fight
22. Hitch hiked(thought about it a few times as a teenager but the fear of my mom finding out was enough to stop me)
23. Taken a sick day when you’re not ill(yep)
24. Built a snow fort
25. Held a lamb
26. Gone skinny dipping
27. Run a Marathon
28. Ridden in a gondola in Venice
29. Seen a total eclipse
30. Watched a sunrise or sunset
31. Hit a home run
32. Been on a cruise
33. Seen Niagara Falls in person
34. Visited the birthplace of your ancestors
35. Seen an Amish community
36. Taught yourself a new language
37. Had enough money to be truly satisfied
38. Seen the Leaning Tower of Pisa in person
39. Gone rock climbing
40. Seen Michelangelo’s David
41. Sung karaoke( at many a wedding reception)
42. Seen Old Faithful geyser erupt
43. Bought a stranger a meal at a restaurant
44. Visited Africa
45. Walked on a beach by moonlight
46. Been transported in an ambulance
47. Had your portrait painted
48. Gone deep sea fishing
49. Seen the Sistine Chapel in person
50. Been to the top of the Eiffel Tower in Paris
51. Gone scuba diving or snorkeling
52. Kissed in the rain
53. Played in the mud
54. Gone to a drive-in theater
55. Been in a movie
56. Visited the Great Wall of China
57. Started a business
58. Taken a martial arts class
59. Visited Russia
60. Served at a soup kitchen
61. Sold Girl Scout Cookies
62. Gone whale watching
63. Gotten flowers for no reason
64. Donated blood, platelets or plasma
65. Gone sky diving(also won't be happening anytime soon)
66. Visited a Nazi Concentration Camp
67. Bounced a check
68. Flown in a helicopter
69. Saved a favorite childhood toy (my Raggedy Ann and first Barbie doll)
70. Visited the Lincoln Memorial
71. Eaten Caviar
72. Pieced a quilt
73. Stood in Times Square
74. Toured the Everglades
75. Been fired from a job
76. Seen the Changing of the Guards in London
77. Broken a bone
78. Been on a speeding motorcycle
79. Seen the Grand Canyon in person
80. Published a book
81. Visited the Vatican
82. Bought a brand new car
83. Walked in Jerusalem
84. Had your picture in the newspaper
85. Read the entire Bible
86. Visited the White House
87. Killed and prepared an animal for eating
88. Had chickenpox
89. Saved someone’s life (many times as a nurse)
90. Sat on a jury
91. Met someone famous
92. Joined a book club
93. Lost a loved one
94. Had a baby
95. Seen the Alamo in person
96. Swam in the Great Salt Lake
97. Been involved in a law suit
98. Owned a cell phone
99. Been stung by a bee


I believe my total was 58 which isn't too bad. I've been fortunate to be able to travel and hopefully will be able to more in my lifetime. Your turn!

Choosing a change

I've written before about how blessed I am to be married to my husband. Dan is a gentleman, a scholar, my partner for 19 years, truly the kindest person I've ever met and he recently made a choice that would affect our family. Dan worked for a very large international pharmaceutical company. He's worked for this company for 5 years. Less than 2 months ago his new boss decided that Dan should be gone for 2 full weeks a month at the company's U.S. home office(which is 2 states away). He also would have to travel an additional 25-40%. Dan said, "no thanks." He resigned from his position 2 weeks ago. He'll take a couple months off and start a new job in January. I cannot imagine what it would have done to William and Grace with Dan being gone pretty much all the time except for weekends. Most people would be pretty afraid right now to quit their job with the economy the way it is and the holidays coming up, and he did the right thing...he chose our family. And that's what is important. William is loving that he's home full time. And so am I!

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